Don’t Forget The Man in Your Life.

If you are a stay at home mom or one that is juggling work and the home, either one can be overwhelmingly exhausting. Something gotta give. At times it’s the man in our lives. Is this fair?

He may not complain at first, which makes it easier to place him at the bottom of your priority list. Eventually he will speak out. He may verbally communicate what he’s feeling directly or indirectly, so pay close attention. Or he may keep it to himself. His behavior will change. If ignored this may lead to feelings of rejection and insecurity. As a result your relationship begins to suffer.

Now you may be thinking great another thing to worry about or what the hell is she talking about. I want you to put yourself in his shoes for a moment. Imagine having him to yourself, then a baby is introduced into your lives and he has given his undivided attention to the baby. It’s the end of the day and he doesn’t have time to listen to you, tell you’re beautiful, forgets to kiss you goodnight, and quickly falls asleep hoping you wont reach over. At first you understand, after some time you begin to miss him although he’s right next to you. Feelings of guilt may overwhelm you, how dare you say anything and sound so selfish. Not such a great feeling, right?

So, now what should you do? I recently heard Deepak Chopra say, “The key to a successful relationship is affection, attention, and appreciation.”  Make the effort. You can start by complementing his appearance once a day, give him a little pinch or pat, listen to him once in a while (even if it’s nonsense), and maybe you can muster up the energy to have sex. Yes, give it up you may not be into it at first but that can change, or sometimes you may be doing it just for him. You may be tired but we all know you don’t have to have amazing sex every time. We’ve all heard women are emotional and men are sexual. Talking and cuddling may cut it for us, but sex validates them. Therefore ladies, “Make the effort not to forget the man in your life!”